by Gil Fronsdal
Hatred never ends by hatred
By love alone does it end
This is an ancient truth
— The Buddha; Dhammapada v.5
From the time of the Buddha to our modern times, the above Poem of Peace has been
evoked in times of conflict and war. All too many conflicts arise out of hatred and then
reinforce hatred. For conflicts to come to a true end, love and friendship are needed,
otherwise the continued divisions fester.
With hatred, others are viewed as obstacles or foes, as wrong or evil. Those who hate
are always blind in not seeing the full humanity of those who are hated. Hatred
perpetuates itself. To end hatred, one must learn to love wisely and strongly.
Those who love wisely see clearly because they know the full humanity of others,
including both the good and the bad. Love heals division as it views others as kin, as
fellow companions on our human journey. Many conflicts dissolve in the presence of
love; those that don’t are transformed into problems to be resolved, not battles to be
won.
It seems the Buddha first spoke the “Poem of Peace” at a time when his monastic
disciples were split into hostile, opposing factions over a disagreement about a monk’s
supposed infraction of a minor monastic rule. Perhaps understanding that the
perspective of our common mortality would convince the monks to put down their
hostility, the Buddha added:
Many do not realize that
We here must die.
For those who realize this,
Quarrels end.
But in their blindness, even with the Buddha’s personal intervention, his disciples didn’t
give up their conflict; in fact, they pushed the Buddha away. It was only when the laity
stopped providing the monks with food that they repented and reconciled.
The “Poem of Peace” appears in a legend about how King Ashoka, one of the first
emperors of India, renounced violence. After winning a battle in which tens of
thousands of soldiers died, the king walked across the battlefield, viewing the carnage.
When a monk walked calmly by, the contrast of death all around the peaceful monk
captured the king’s attention. When asked about his calm, the monk said,
Hatred never ends with hatred.
By love alone does it end.
This is an ancient truth.
The monk and this poem were the catalyst for the king to stop his battles.
Jack Kornfield tells the story of witnessing the Cambodian monk Maha Ghosananda
reciting the “Poem of Peace” in a refugee camp at the height of the Khmer Rouge
genocide in Cambodia. Under the threat of death from the Khmer Rouge, Maha
Ghosananda built a large bamboo temple in the midst of the Cambodian refugee camp.
When it was built, 20,000 refugees gathered to hear the peaceful and gentle monk.
Over and over again, Maha Ghosananda recited in the original language of the Buddha
and in Cambodian,
Hatred never ends by hatred
By love alone does it end
This is an ancient truth
As he did so, the refugees cried.
In our modern times, one of the most significant impacts of the Buddha’s “Poem of
Peace” is in the signing of the San Francisco Peace Treaty in September, 1951. With the
ending of World War II, Japan became a conquered and occupied country. The treaty
was the product of a contentious conference where foreign ministers from 48 countries
gathered in San Francisco to discuss the future of Japan, including terms of
compensation for victims of Japanese war efforts. In discussing versions of a new treaty,
many countries did not want Japan to become a sovereign nation. They were afraid the
country would rebuild its military and once again go to war. Some of the foreign
ministers wanted Japan to remain a subjugated nation in order to break the will of the
Japanese to fight again.
As this was being debated, the foreign minister from Sri Lanka (then called Ceylon) gave
a speech in which he said his country was entitled to compensation for damage inflicted
by the Japanese. However, he then said, “We do not intend to do so for we believe in
the words of the Great Teacher whose message has ennobled the lives of countless
millions in Asia, that ‘hatred never ends with hatred. By love alone does it end.’”
He ended his speech by stating, “We extend to Japan the hand of friendship and trust
that…her people and ours may march together to enjoy the full dignity of human life in
peace and prosperity.” His words were received with great applause and the
conference ratified the treaty that returned Japan to being a free and independent
country.
In Tokyo there is a small monument commemorating the San Francisco Peace Treaty
and the Sri Lankan foreign minister’s speech. Written on the plaque are the words,
Hatred never ends by hatred
By love alone does it end
This is an ancient truth
One of the remarkable transformations of the 20th century is how Japan went from a
hostile nation to a peaceful nation existing in friendship with those who defeated it.
While it would seem natural and justified for the victims of Japanese violence to hate
Japan and in that hate punish the country, this would not have led to the amity that
followed in the decades after the end of World War II.
In being an ancient truth, it is not surprising that others should speak the same wisdom
as the Buddha did in his “Poem of Peace”. One example is Martin Luther King Jr who
said,
Hate cannot drive out hate;
only love can do that.
Hate multiplies hate,
violence multiplies violence,
and toughness multiplies toughness
in a descending spiral of destruction…
In addressing the civil rights and racist issues of his time, King also said,
We must meet the forces of hate
with the power of love…
Our aim must never be to defeat
or humiliate the white man,
but to win his friendship
and understanding.
No matter what side of a conflict one is on, without love, friendship, and understanding
a division persists that is the seedbed for further conflict and hostility. But with love, not
only can hate end, the seedbed for it to reappear disappears.
These three—love, friendship, and understanding—are not always easy to have. It
requires intention, persistence, and effort. It also takes wisdom, discernment, and
thoughtfulness. The greater the conflict, the greater the need for careful consideration
of how to act or what to say.
Perhaps the single most important thing we can do to cultivate greater love and
friendship is to be mindful. Mindfulness allows us to see deeply into ourselves and into
others. It is the vehicle in which greater understanding and empathy can show us clearly
how much better off we are with love than with hatred.